It is useful to understand the
stages we go through
in order to
better
understand where we stand with our partners.
All relationships go through
stages on their way to making heaven on earth.
Each
stage has its own challenges, traps and answers.
If
you know the stages of relationship, you are better
prepared to handle the challenges and not to be blind-sided
by the issues.
Here they are in brief:-
1.
Relationships begin in the Romance or Honeymoon Stage. This is where we idealise the other, yet it is in
this stage that we can see and feel the potential
of the relationship.
2.
Then there is the Power Struggle Stage where
we are learning to bridge our differences, communicate,
join and integrate both positions. Here we project
out our shadow figures on our partner, and primarily
fight for our needs.
3.
The Dead Zone is a stage where we are learning to
transcend good form for authenticity, find our worth
without roles or sacrifice and learn how to bond, moving
beyond the counterfeit bonding of fusion.
4.
The Partnership Stage is where we have reached
a balance between our own masculine-feminine sides
and correspondingly, we do so in our relationship
with our partner. It's at this stage that we find
balance, equality and intimacy.
5.
The Leadership Stage is where we have both become
leaders in life and have learned to value each other
beyond the conflict and competition of personalities.
6.
The Vision Stage occurs when we have become
a visionary along with our partner, making contributions
to the earth and healing unconscious pain and fractures.
7.
The Mastery Stage of relationships is where we have
healed our feelings of failure and valuelessness to
the point of moving from doing and becoming, to being
and grace.
This is where we become living treasures
to the earth. It is the beginning of heaven on earth
for our relationship.
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