Maybe its an ancestral pattern.

"This is a pattern which has been passed down through one or both sides of the family. With adopted people there also seems to be a legacy from either or both the adoptive and the biological parents – even if they have never seen the latter.

Family patterns can come from some original trauma, but take on different symptoms in different generations. A pattern could be passed through as a predilection for things such as illness, low self-worth, scarcity, relationship problems, heartbreak.

As an inherited problem or issue, it is one which already exists when we are born. There are also family gifts which pass down through generations. An ancestral problem or family pattern can be one of the most significant issues creating trouble in someone’s life."
by Chuck Spezzano from The Enlightenment Pack. Copyright Spezzano Associates.

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