Guilt
by Chuck Spezzano
Key Concepts: Self-attack; withdrawal;
unworthiness; living in the past; fear of the
next step; self-exaggeration; control
Guilt
is a negative emotion which goes hand in hand
with fear. Just as fear is about the
future, guilt comes from something we feel
bad about in the past.
When we have guilt we always
create forms of self-punishment. It is one of
the root dynamics which gives rise to any problem,
or victim, situations.
Guilt’s purpose is
to ‘protect’ us from moving forward
and taking the next step. The more attention
we pay to guilt, the more we reinforce its existence.
You are being asked to correct the mistake instead
of staying stuck in the cycle of self-punishment
and guilt.
You are being asked to
look at giving one of the greatest gifts you
can give the world – you. Rather
than building a monument to a mistake, learn
the lesson, correct the mistake, recognise your
innocence and take the next step forward. |