Bonding The connection that exists between us and others. Bonding creates love and success with ease rather than with struggle and difficulty. It is what gives cohesiveness its glue and teamwork its mutuality.

Compensation What psychologists call 'reaction formation'. It is a role that is meant to hide and make up for negative feelings, and it is meant to prove that we are positive, innocent and deserving of love. When there is compensation present, we act in an opposite way, as a reaction to a mistaken feeling.

However, it doesn't allow us to receive because it is not true giving. It is a mechanism of proving. Unfortunately, much of what we do can be considered compensation. But it's a wasted effort and an attempt to prove what doesn't need proving - namely our innocence and value.

Conspiracy A chronic trap of the ego, set up so well that it looks like we will never escape it. Conspiracies are particularly difficult to heal until we realise that the problem has been set up that way.

Ego The part of us that seeks separation and specialness and - ultimately - wants to be God. It is the part of us that fights for itself and its own needs first. It is built on fear, guilt, negativity, and competition, wanting to be the best of something, even if it is painful, or the best of the worst.

Ego distracts, delays, and attempts to stop evolution, being more concerned with its own continuity. It is based on domination-subjugation, rather than any form of strength or truth. It is ultimately an illusion. We make it strong, while we are young, and then melt it away for partnership and grace.

Fusion A muddling of boundaries that occurs when bonding is lost. We cannot tell where we end and another begins. Fusion is the ego's answer to the lost intimacy. It is counterfeit bonding, which creates sacrifice and builds resentment.

Fusion sets up an overburdening sense of loyalty. This eventually causes us to burn out and move into the opposite extreme of independence. We move from over-caring and smothering to acting as if we do not care.
 
Gifts Aspects of greatness or grace that make any job easy. Our gifts are the answer to all situations because they remove the problem.

Gifts are learned lessons that continuously give and create flow. They are packets of wisdom, healing and responsiveness for the situation at hand. In every problem, there is a potential gift. We have thousands of unopened gifts within us that are the antidote to pain and problems.

Higher Mind The aspect of the mind that is creative, contains or receives all of our answers, and opens our will and our spirit to the grace that heaven and the world around us wants to bestow on us. It is always guiding us with a quiet voice toward the truth. It encourages us to win together, not only now, but in the future.

Love The ultimate goal and the best means to the goal. It is the sweet fulfillment that comes of an open-hearted extension of oneself. This is the giving, receiving, sharing and reaching out to one another.

Love is the foundation of being and the best description of God, whatever your religious beliefs. It gives us everything we want - meaning, happiness, healing, nurturing, and joy. Our evolution and happiness are based on how much we give and receive in love.

Manifest Consciously using the mind to choose what we want. It is the use of visualisation, feeling and sensing what we want, and then letting it go and trusting. It allows us to create exactly what we want in detail.

Sacrifice A psychological mistake in which we give and don't receive. It's a role that compensates for feelings of failure, guilt and unworthiness. It hides competition and taking, and it attempts to lose now to win later.

A script of sacrifice tells a story of us losing for others to win at a time when a script could be written for everyone to win. Sacrifice is afraid of the intimacy that brings equality.

Scarcity A fear-based belief that there is not enough and that we, or someone else, will have to go without. A belief in scarcity sets up power struggle, competition and sacrifice.

Shadow Figures Self-concepts that we have judged about ourselves and as a result, repressed. They represent areas of self-hatred that we project out onto others around us or onto the world in general.

Tantrum A choice in which we react, complain, withdraw or hurt ourselves when life does not come about as we consciously want. It can show itself as any form of failure, immaturity, or lack of success.

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