We started 2010 at the New Year with a lunar eclipse on December 31st 2009 at 9 degrees Capricorn. It was followed by a Solar eclipse on January 15th 2010 at 24 degrees Capricorn. Eclipses are when the Moon or Sun are temporarily blocked and we are plunged into darkness.

At the lunar eclipses with the Moon blocked, we can get caught in our emotions of fear and react rather than respond. My counsel to clients is to please wait to make any important decisions that affect your life until after the next New Moon.

Eclipses occur twice a year so they aren’t rare and they always signify change, normally up to 3 months after their occurrence. Whether that’s good or bad depends on your attitude.

I would venture to suggest that fear is the biggest problem that the world and business is facing right now. When we are in fear we are off our centres and make poor decisions coming from survival. We have lost our vision, our faith in a positive future.

I have faced a lot of fear in my life and do believe I have found a way through. My path is Psychology of Vision and practising the principles of partnering, open communication and asking for help have been crucial for me. I attend trainings and workshops as well as give them as I know it's only by investing in my own healing, and finding the way through, can I lead and guide my clients with authority.

Fear is at the heart of every problem

Its a really negative emotion and is contagious. Have you ever been in a crowd when there is fear? Fear is the work of the ego which can come up with thousands of good reasons to be fearful - fear of chronic pain, fear of death, fear of homelessness, fear of insanity to name a few. Chuck Spezzano PHd has named over 40 fears, but some of the most surprising he discovered (in his 30 years of working with thousands of participants from all over the world) are the fears of greatness, happiness and of having it all. This is excerpted from one of his books :-

All fear is fear of the Next Step

• Fear of the next step comes from a lack of confidence, a loss of faith and fear of the unknown. This fear is generated from an unhealed past that we project onto the future, expecting it to be as painful as the past.

•There is also the fear of loss. We see the next step as one in which we will lose something vital if we were to move into a new level of success.

• Our fear comes from our thoughts and our beliefs. These are are static, continuous thoughts, that can become obsessive.

• Our thoughts create form, and build the world we see.  Our thoughts are either heading us toward life and happiness or moving us toward suffering and death. The outer world we live in is really a movie we project on it. It is a reflection of our mind.

• The way to heal the fear is to change the fear thoughts and negative beliefs. To do this we must first become aware of the negative thoughts we have created. As the ego is clever it will try its hardest to keep us blind in this area. There are stories we are telling that have been buried deep in our unconscious.

Busting free from fear with positive denial
There's a scene in The Matrix where Neo realizes his true power. He holds up his hand and says "No" with clear authority and the bullets, like rain, drop to the ground. (Watch this movie, it is dark and disturbing, but it is brilliant in conception as it describes 'awakening' and how life on this planet is just a hologram.)

Make the choice to not attack yourself any more with these fear thoughts. At least five times today, for 2 minutes each time, reflect on the problem you wish to resolve. Choose one of the following and state as specifically as possible:

• In the situation regarding _________what I am afraid, worried or concerned will happen is ___________

•What I do not want to happen is __________________________

After each thought comes up, say one of the following:

• This thought is a direct attack on my confidence, my safety, my success and on myself.
• This thought is generating my problem.
• This thought keeps me from moving forward.

You will notice that after 5 or 6 times of doing this 2 minute exercise some very significant fear or self-attack thoughts will surface. At the end of each 2 minute section use the power of your mind and the healing principe of positive denial and state:

• I no longer want to keep attacking myself like this. What I really want is ______

Vision as the way through fear
Chuck is my mentor and I highly recommend these two brilliant interviews with him on YouTube. These short videos are focused on the qualities that are needed by leaders in business.

These qualities are those we can all apply at this time in our lives, especially if we are stuck or caught in fear. There are 2 videos, both no longer than 5 minutes,

Part 1 and Part 2.

Do you need help to transform your problems?
I offer transformational coaching on the phone or 1-1 to help you start the process of changing your life. Clients really benefit from just 6 sessions as the work gets to the root of problems.

Remember our problems did not arise overnight but may be a soul pattern that has taken many lifetimes to manifest, or be an ancestral pattern handed down over many generations. All of our problems are distractions and get in the way of living our purpose.

To begin, answer these questions intuitively:-

Q If you were to know: When did you decide to have this problem?
Q What has it allowed you to do?
Q What has it allowed you not to do?

From a recent client: "Pam and I set out on a Life Coaching journey. Always ready to listen and explain, she enabled me to make subtle shifts in the way I saw things in my life, past and present, so that I didn't have to keep going down the same well worn, weary roads - it was OK to change and see things differently.

It had been quite a decision to make this investment in myself - to value myself enough - but once I got that hurdle out of the way, I can honestly say there wasn't a single session with Pam when I didn't come away feeling lighter and happier. Yes, you can read self-help books - and I have - loads of them - but the interaction with Pam as an inspired, insightful guide was worth a library!" Ann Russell

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warmest wishes

COPYRIGHT Exercise from 'Block Busting' by Chuck Spezzano (out of print).  Pam has permission to reproduce it. ©Spezzano Associates.